Teenage Pregnancy: Are they really ready to be a Mom?

I am awfully bothered on how teenagers at such a young age get pregnant. I am not judging them. I know there are a lot of reasons why they are in such situation. I also understand that it isn't easy to stand up to what they have done, that it's already there. But, of course, I also can't push the fact aside that sooner or later, they will face parenthood and I keep worrying. Are they really ready?

I know a lot of people/friends who at a young age became a Mom. I actually have few high school classmates who got pregnant. I was always happy when they decide to keep the baby and not to have an abortion. I always believed that life is so precious. That the baby deserves a life.. but.. is it the life they really wanted and what they deserve?

As a nurse, I always encounter postpartum (after-delivery) patients and mostly are within the ages 15-20 years young. Before, I was always full of enthusiasm handling these patients but lately, I am just most of the time irritated from all the whining and complaining I hear from them.

Reasons?

1. Breastfeeding Issues.

Ok. I understand that it is painful. I get it. I always explain how breast milk is important for the baby. FOR THE BABY'S welfare. That it may be difficult at first. That yes you may feel that there's nothing coming out of your breast but what is important is that it gets stimulated by the baby's suck. You'd have to keep your baby suck your breast at least every two hours. I always get "eh masakit talaga eh" "eh wala siyang masipsip, walang lumalabas" "eh masakit yung tahi ko" blah blah blah. If I could, I would be the one to offer milk myself. It just pisses me off that the mothers don't even try. They just talk.

2. Mother and Baby Bonding.  

For the first 24 hours, they usually place the baby on the basinette under drop light. I believe this also gives the mother a chance to rest from labor and delivery. After 24 hours, baby is put at mothers bedside to allow mother-baby bonding. But I observed, the Yayas are the ones who stay with the baby and who sleep beside them and the mother, either alone or beside their partners. When the baby cries or needs to be changed, it's the Yayas or grandparents who does all the work and the parents.. well they just wake up, tell them what to do then sleep. Even in bathing, cause we the nurses usually give baby baths and I observed that these moms usually don't care. They don't even make an effort to see how it is done, they just lie down and again, it's up to the yaya or grandparent. 

I honestly run out of patience sometimes. Napapamura sa inis. Yes, cause they always give us nurses attitude. And when the nerves get to us, there is always the thought "bubuntis buntis, andaming reklamo pero di naman nagtatry na gawin mga dapat gawin" but of course, we don't say it naman. It just runs in our minds.

Of course, this doesnt apply to everyone. Maybe to a few, or more but these are just based from experiences and observations. It just saddens me that this is what really happens, that there is always the feeling that they are not ready, but who am I to judge di ba? I just hope that upon leaving the hospital, everything is well. That my worries are just false fears and I still hope that they LEARN and act RESPONSIBLY.